A time to feel the pain - From compromising to prioritising

Dear friends,

We are in the darkest time of the year (on this side of the equator), and some of us feel that deeply. Next week, we will be celebrating the return of the light — yet this is not an easy or cozy time for everybody. Some people spend Christmas alone.

I would like to dedicate this letter to those who are — like me — sensitive to the lack of light and warmth, and to those who celebrate the return of the light in solitude.

Let’s embrace this time — a time to feel the pain. For me, it is a time to become small and silent, and to listen deeply. It’s a time to look back — or rather, to feel now — and to check where we are still compromising.

Those who follow me closely know that I deeply care about our unique expression. If you were completely free, without coping mechanisms, how would life express itself through you?

I have written down where I feel I am still compromising, and therefore blocking the unique expression that wants to happen through me. These are things I do that keep me from being available to the most fulfilling life I can have.

Compromising often comes from the belief that you have to do certain things, or behave in a certain way. But if you really examine these mechanisms, you will find that they are just that — mechanisms. You could make other choices. Of course, it can be helpful to explore why you don’t, and where these beliefs originated. Most of the time, they are rooted in guilt or shame.

As always: understanding is clarifying, clarifying is becoming transparent, and becoming transparent is becoming available — available for that unique expression to find you.

To relate to that unique expression — to being in flow, and one with life itself — I have carefully chosen four verbs. They are the seeds I am planting in this darkest time of the year. They are the moving life force I like to engage with in the new year. I am not thinking in terms of static outcomes, but of undivided movement that happens through me.

What are your four verbs for the new year?

Is 2026 a year to deepen your practice, further uncover your unique expression, and experience the life-changing effect of Moving Language? You can find the retreats I’ll be leading at Amiglia in spring 2026 here.

Embrace the darkness.
Plant the verbs.
Allow the movement to happen through you.

Loving,
Zoë

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